How did you get into being a Dominatrix?
I was a bit into BDSM before I even knew what it was. When I became an adult I started doing research on and discovering what BDSM is. I knew I wanted to be a Dominatrix but had no clue on how to go about it. Out of the blue I ran into a friend who told Me that she was working at a dungeon. I applied and started immediately. The problem was, a lot of dungeons have this policy, I had to start as a submissive. I hated it and quit after four months. I veered away from BDSM work for a few years and then reemerged, this time as an independent Dominatrix.
Do you actually like your work?
Yes. Yes, I do. I have had a handful of jobs that I tolerated. However, nothing has ever come even remotely close to fulfilling Me like being a Dominatrix does. I work for Myself. I have no boss to answer to, no schedule to stick to, and can pick and choose who My clients are. I'm able to travel whenever I want and session with clients when I do. I get to learn and improve My BDSM skills constantly. It's made Me a better negotiator and communicator. I'm able to accept people who may be shunned by the rest of society. It's insanely rewarding. I highly doubt I will ever change careers.
Did you go to college?
Briefly. I graduated high school early and was accepted to all the colleges I wanted to attend. I never wanted to go so I started working. By the time I decided I should go I was only able to attend community college because it was so last minute. I ended up being able to transfer to the University that I wanted to go to within a year but then decided I was sick of school. I have no desire to get a degree at this time. I am considering taking some classes to improve My marketing and advertising skills though.
Does your family know what you do?
Some of My family members know what I do and some do not. No reason to give My conservative grandparents a heart attack. The ones who do know are supportive and understanding. They tend to get a kick out of the stories I tell them.
Do you have kids?
No, and highly doubt I'll ever have them. If I do I don't think I will change My profession. Also, I don't think I would share that information if I end up having them.
Do you hate men?
No, I do not hate men. When I talk about men being "bad"/etc I do not mean all men. I mean the vast majority of men. I think about 60% of men are assholes. Yes, there are women who sexually abuse, abuse in other capacities, and murder. However, it's no where close to the percent of men who do. I find that most men are entitled and misogynistic. That being said I have many amazing men in My life. They aren't all bad.
How do you view submissive men and Women?
I know there is this view in society that submissives, especially male submissives, are weak. That they're doormats and losers. That they're brainless zombies who crave abuse. This point of view is so far from the truth. Submissives choose who they submit to. They don't just find a stranger and tell them they'll do whatever they want. To be chosen by a submissive is a gift. All the submissives I know are very strong people. They just have a deep need to serve. I see them as brave and loyal knights who protect Me. Not as objects to use however I see fit.
What do you do when you aren't working?
When I'm not working there's a 90% chance that I'm wearing workout clothes. I really enjoy working out at the gym. It's how I clear My mind and destress. Hiking outside and walking My dogs is a close second. I spend a lot of time with My family and some time with friends. When My schedule allows it I may travel or binge on Netflix. I'm looking forward to when it gets warmer so I can start going to the beach.
What are you passionate about?
My biggest passion is traveling. I've been to 25 countries so far and have so many I still need to visit! I love seeing different ways of life, befriending people, exploring, and trying new food. It's so easy to believe your views and way of life are the only way if you don't get out and experience the world. I like to keep an open mind. Traveling helps with that.
peterbeeson - Thank you! If or when I go to any of those cities I will let you know.
Love your essay - cheering in seattle and very much appreciate your passion, interests and generosity in sharing with your fans! Hoping you schedule a visit to seattle, portland or vancouver bc! Best wishes for prosperity and great success!